I wanted to share with you today some of the things I have found instrumental in helping me through my transition. I hope you will find inspiration and enlightenment for your own journey.
My top 5 tips for living your life toward freedom:
- Become more self-aware
A crucial skill for anyone wanting to achieve great things in their life is to learn to observe themselves. It is well known that we are our own worst enemies when it comes to getting in the way of our success.
Develop the capability to separate your mind’s eye into two: one that continues to live life as normal and one that quietly and non-judgementally observes. Notice how you react in situations – your thoughts, feelings and body sensations. You will start to pick up patterns in your behaviours and specific tendencies that are holding you back.
Be kind and gentle with yourself, as well as willing to let go. Then you can work toward building your capacity to work through and break these patterns of behaviour. (Working with a coach makes this a lot easier and accelerates the process; you also have someone on your side that always has your back and best interest at heart.)
- Mindset shift
70 -80% of people are stuck in a victim mentality. They believe that the world is happening to them and range from showing signs of unhappiness to being depressed and desperate.
There is, however, an awakening taking place and people are starting to realize that no matter what life throws at us, our thoughts determine our own reality. AND there is now scientific evidence being produced of the undisputable power of the mind.
If we want to live a life that is free, we have to believe in freedom and abundance. Most of our beliefs are subconscious and unknown to us. BUT our beliefs govern our thoughts so by becoming more self-aware (as described above), we can start to bring those beliefs into our awareness.
Through focused, directed thinking in line with what we want to create for ourselves and our lives, we can shift our beliefs and mindset. This takes regular dedicated practice – awareness is not enough, we have to embody it.
Some of the practices I have found great for shifting my mindset have been daily affirmations, declarations, mindfulness and hypnotherapy.
- Get really clear on your vision
When we are unclear about what we really want in life our days tend to get filled with low priority actions that leave us feeling unfulfilled and stressed out.
Clarity starts with acknowledging your own unique set of values that make you who you are. Stop comparing yourself to others and considering what you SHOULD have in order to live a happy, productive life. Start focusing on what is really important to you and what YOU find satisfying and fulfilling in life (even if it looks different to everyone else).
When you are setting and achieving daily, weekly, monthly goals that are in line with your strengths and values, you will start to see your life shifting and taking shape in a way that leaves you feeling happy, contented and free.
- Remove negative forces of the media
You do not have to watch the news! The news media constantly push a stream of negativity at us and we lap it up like a drug. You know the saying “no news is good news”, the media are a business and their marketing campaign is to feed us with what they know will sell. Our need for control, acceptance and safety keeps us hooked into it, only feeding our negative mindset and fuelling the fire. Try it for 5 days, no TV, radio or newspapers. I promise you won’t miss it!
Advertising is not any better. Advertisers sell their products by making us feel bad about ourselves… If only you had this deodorant, you would be attractive and lovable (affirming your belief that without it your life is unsatisfactory). We are bombarded with adverts; research shows that the average person will be exposed to 1,000 000 adverts per year. That is 1,000 000 messages that you are not good enough as you are!
- Daily practices to integrate your mind, body and spirit
You will know you are disintegrated when you find yourself feeling out of balance, anxious or frustrated in any area of your life. Centring and grounding are two body practices which help to bring us back into alignment. Meditation and yoga are also fantastic daily practices that incorporate all three elements of your being.
I have found these practices keep me strong, motivated, open-minded and connected to my intentions. Incorporating bodily and spiritual practices into my daily routine has been a very simple way to ensure that I stay on track; whenever I notice myself slipping out of alignment and becoming unbalanced I come back to these simple techniques.
As the Old Zen saying goes: “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes a day. Unless you are too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.”